Pastor Jeff:
I live in NJ also, and my best seedlings are the ones I start last, usually the first day of April. The ones I start earlier end up too leggy.
Tomatoes do well with "winter sowing." Have you heard about it? It is explained at this website:
http://wintersown.org/wseo1/How_to_Winter_Sow.html
They will also send you free tomato seeds (for a SASE). After you have read the pages on the website, you take a little quiz. When you pass the (automated) quiz you will get a printout page which you include in your SASE.
My wintersown tomato seedlings are always stockier than the ones I start under lights, and they are already hardened off! I start them on March 1, they germinate (outside in their little covered containers) around April 1, I transplant them into individual 3" pots at the end of April and put them in the ground mid May.